Azhar suresh2023-03-19To be completely honest, when I read this the amount that I could relate to was shocking. I've heard and seen all of this before. Being a "skinny boy" the minute I started maturing and aging, people made these comments: "your face is so full", " waar bok
Gadija2023-03-19This is such a raw written article and so relatable, it is almost like saying and making you feel that you are not desirable. I get that a lot these days, and "eina" "jy het eintlik vet geword " "maak seer". I want to tell those people sometimes: "Hou jou
Berenice Bosch2023-03-19Wow - I absolutely love your essay!👏👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏 You write beautifully! I remember all those familiar sayings from people who felt that they simply had to comment on one's weight. I used to cringe when people commented on my
Renska de Villiers-Romburg2023-03-19Ek maak my soms só skuldig aan hierdie, en tóg is ek een van daais wat as kind geboelie was oor my gewig en tot vandag toe dink mense hulle het die reg om te comment op my liggaamsbou.
Thank you Zubayr Charles for this article/essay.
❤️❤️
Ammaarah Arendse2023-03-19Klompie Shukrans for speaking on this. It is something that hits close to home.
Our lives are more than just how much weight we gained and how round our face is. We are more than our appearances!
Thank you for sharing!
Hloniphile2023-03-19"I realise that I need to do better with the things that I say to both myself and to others."
This really hit home. Thank you for sharing your story, in doing so you've become a voice for so many of us.
Riyanah Achmat2023-03-19Good read. We really do need to think before we speak.
We should also realize that you are what you eat and our health is important. It's our responsibility to take care of ourselves and our bodies, to be healthy functioning human beings.
Loving the a
Chenal2023-03-19I truly relate to the content of this article and experienced the exact thing. This commentary usually came to me when I would visit my hometown and the neighbours would be sure to analyse the boooody. I would reply with “Yes, aren’t you glad I am not
Chelsea Jochems2023-03-19There are so many events in the essay that is relatable, especially to my current life. Many people don’t understand how their words can affect people and how they feel about themselves. No one should be judged on their physical characteristics. I perso
Yacine Barre2023-03-19What a lovely read👌🏿. I related so much to this piece, sir, but in my case, it was about my weight loss.
I think people should really count their words before speaking, because it's the words they say so carelessly that hurts the most. We should r
Tyler Jansen-Alben2023-03-19Breaking a cycle is never easy. Being a cycle breaker is uncomfortable for both you and those around you. But sit proudly in your discomfort and the discomfort of others, as you are paving the way for a new normal. One which lacks the toxicity we've been
Nadia Benjamin2023-03-19Couldn't agree more, it's really not a nice thing to say to someone. It's one of the reasons why most humans become so insecure and the sad reality is we hear these types of thing from the people closest to us.
Faldeelah Ismail2023-03-19Wow! It's as if you're writing MY story. Beginning to end, every single thing you've experienced, is what I've been, and still are going through.
People can be ignorant and some blatantly hurtful, but we continue being our beautiful selves.
Great read
Ihlaam2023-03-19This is truly inspiring. Your honesty and vulnerability about your personal journey were both relatable and empowering. It is unfortunate that people experience negative comments about weight gain. Body shaming and fat phobia are harmful and can have seri
Najma Mohamed2023-03-19A well-written personal experience with thought-provoking moral lessons.
Weight gain is very painful and leads to self-deprecation and low self-esteem.
Coincidently, Zubayr, it has happened to me, too. I put on so much weight around my belly area whic
Nazeerah Williamson Hendricks2023-03-19This topic is very sensitive and when someone says it to me, I get defensive and respond with "I buy food, not drugs."
This is very well written, thank you for sharing.
Nuhaa2023-03-19It's so sad that this is so common, specifically within our culture. I always think of the wise words of Flower in Bambi: "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all."
Caroline De castro2023-03-18Cherry Howall, my family comes from Sally Snodgrass. My mother and her siblings are still alive all live in Pretoria. Would love to hear about the stories Sally told you.
Ireezah Adams2023-03-18This really needs to be shared and spread widely, I feel like so many people experience this, but are too afraid to speak openly without being judged. Reading this just made me feel like I can relate so much and finally here is someone that actually under
Octavia Roodt2023-03-18My hoop is dat kunstenaars en skrywers in die ou werk sal invaar en dit hervertaal, illustreer en kritiseer. Uitknip en inplak. Daarmee woeker met gesonde respek, maar ook 'n tipe aggressie waarmee ons die ou garde in die nuwe eeu in kan sleep.
Weet iema
Andre Badenhorst2023-03-17Die groot wen is dat die administrasie nou gedwing word om na beide kante te luister. Tot dusver het dit maar bitter moeilik gegaan, verwysend na die Luister-video, talle hofsake, oneindigende artikels op hierdie platform, duidelike misnoë vanaf hul eie
Aa-ishah Hendricks2023-03-17It was a pleasant read. Also the first sentence everyone back home says to me. It definitely brought lekker memories of all of us hanging out.
Jan2023-03-17Clarck: "Attacking logic means attacking morality."
Een van daardie BS stellings wat Marx trots sou wees om in Communist Manifest in te sluit. Big slogan with no substance.
Mauritz Moolman2023-03-17Dat volwasse, klaarblyklik geleerde mense nog aan hierdie bog, dat brokkies brood en slukkies wyn gode verteenwoordig en dit na eie behoefte laat verskyn, pyne verlig en verbeelde sondes laat verdwyn, is tragies. Dat dit nie moderering verdien nie, maar d
Marietjie Warrington2023-03-17Betinna, pragtig, volledig en met fynbesnaarde spitsvondigheid! Baie dankie hiervoor en moet asseblief nooit as te nimmer ophou skryf nie.
Charl Adams2023-03-17Bettina se betoog is glad nie gemik teen die MRK nie.
Dit was 'n proses wat moes plaasvind en almal aanvaar die Kommissie se beslissing.
Die punt is dat, gesien teen die behoefte van die breë samelewing om mekaar te respekteer, verhoudinge en gesindhede
Frederik van Dyk2023-03-17Bettina, jou poging om 'n soort teennarratief te skep sou lagwekkend wees as dit nie 'n ernstige vergissing was wat boonop gepubliseer is nie.
1. As die MRK, of paneel, bevindings maak, dan is daar oplaas 'n party wat gelyk gegee word op die kwessies vo
